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Eleanor M. Toper

Eleanor M. Toper

1927 - 2017

Eleanor ‘Ellie’ Toper, 89, formerly of Schley Drive, passed away February 9, 2017, at the Samaritan Summit Village.

Ellie was born April 12, 1927, in Watertown, a daughter of Perley and Ruby Runions Bigness. In 1945 she graduated from Alexandria Bay High School. She married John Toper on September 10, 1949 at Asbury United Methodist Church, with the Reverend McClung officiating. Ellie was an operator for the NY Telephone Company in Watertown and also lived for a number of years in Malone, before returning to Watertown.

Ellie enjoyed ceramics, flower gardening, golf, and spending time with her grandchildren and great-grandchildren. She was a former member of the Watertown Golf Club and the Malone Golf Club for many years.

Surviving besides her husband John are a son Jon A. (Cathy) Toper, Amsterdam, NY two daughters, Jill E. (Timothy) Cook, Webster, NY, Beth E. (William) Maguire, Adams Center, NY, seven grandchildren, nine great grandchildren, several nieces and nephews. A brother Darwin Bigness and a sister, June  Wiswell died before her.

Calling hours will be held from 2 to 5 pm on Tuesday February 14, 2017 at D.L. Calarco Funeral Home, Inc. A memorial service will be held immediately following the calling hours and a private memorial service and burial at the convenience of the family.  The family requests that contributions be made to Asbury United Methodist Church or the Alzheimer's Association in lieu of flowers. Condolences may be made to www.dlcalarco.com


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Condolences left by other guests:

jill, beth, and jon,  I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. She was such a classy lady with a beautiful smile. May she rest in peace

By Ginny Sinclair on 02 17, 2017


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Sorry for your loss. Your family is in our prayers.

By John and Teri Navarra on 02 14, 2017


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Jill & Tim and family.
  We are so sorry for your loss. Your mom was a such a sweet
lady with a beautiful smile whenever we saw her. Thinking of all of you.
    Marlene, Nic and Nickolas

By Nic & Marlene Darling on 02 13, 2017


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Dear Mr. Toper, Jon, Cathy, Caitlyn and John Anthony,
  Please accept our condolences on Ellie’s passing. We hope that you will be comforted by her memory and it is our prayer that she will rest in peace.
May God bless and keep you all.
Love,
Keith and Andrea

By Keith And Andrea Stewart on 02 13, 2017


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Jill and family.  My most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mom.  She was always so kind; such a warm and soft spoken lady. Since I am out of town and cannot hug you in person I send my love to you.

By Trude on 02 13, 2017


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Jon,  please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss of your mother.  She will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Jim

By Jim Nassar on 02 13, 2017


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Dear Jon and Family,
We are so sorry to hear about your Mom.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Charlie & Nancy

By Charlie Palmer on 02 13, 2017


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Dear Jon and Family,

I am so sorry for your loss.  Let me know if there is any thing I can do for you.

John

By John Craig on 02 13, 2017


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My heart is sad for all of you.
I have so many memories of Ellie.  She was a special person and a dear friend.
Time has a way of slipping by, but our family still talks about your years in Malone and our Christmas Eve parties, dinners, golfing and snowmobiling!
Much love to you.
Harriet

By Harriet DeFranco on 02 12, 2017


Condolences left by other guests:

Sorry to hear about Mrs. Toper’s passing. I remember her with the fondest of memories. My condolences to all of you.
Diane (Robert) Light

By Diane (Robert) Light on 02 12, 2017


Condolences left by other guests:

I have a picture taken long ago that is always in a frame in my home of Aunt Ellie holding a young Jill and very young Jon.  Uncle John, Jill, Jon, and Beth, that is how I always think of her - with arms and eyes full of love.  You and yours are in my heart, never more than now.

By Deborah Bigness on 02 12, 2017


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You were a wonderful person,wife and mother,Aunt Ellie.You will be missed.Rest In Peace..

By James Becker on 02 12, 2017


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John, Jon, Jill and Beth - so very sorry to read about the passing of Eleanor. I remember her from when you would visit my Mom and Dad in Black River and the beautiful calligraphy on the Christmas cards you used to send.  She will be missed.  My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. God bless.

By Beth Bigness Williams on 02 11, 2017


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Uncle John, Jon, Jill and Beth, I’m so sorry to hear the news about Aunt Ellie.  We will never forget when we were kids, what a kind person she was, and her warm manner and smile. 

May God comfort you all,
Karen

By Karen Berry (Becker) on 02 11, 2017


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Aunt Ellie you will be missed so much.  God bless you.
Chris

By Christine Becker on 02 11, 2017


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Very elegant woman She will be missed My condolences to the family We are out of town and unable to pay respects in person

By Paul Trimper on 02 11, 2017


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So sorry to hear of Ellie’s death.

Fond memories of her and family on Chestnut St.

By Connie Bellinger on 02 11, 2017


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Mr. Toper, Jill, Jon and Beth….
So many wonderful memories of times with all of you.
My deepest sympathy. A great lady.

Cathy DeFranco

By Cathy DeFranco on 02 11, 2017


Condolences left by other guests:

My condolences to John and family.  It’s been many years since I’ve seen Ellie but I’ll always cherish he happy memories of her great spirit, infectious smile and love of life.

By Patrick Lyng on 02 11, 2017


Condolences left by other guests:

Deepest condolences to John, and all of Ellie’s family. Though I only knew her in her very late years, I could see she was still, quite something special, and sense that she must have been somewhat of “a force of nature” in her heyday. It was always lovely to see her smile, John.

By John Keenan on 02 11, 2017


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My mother Anne and I extend our sincere condolences to John and the whole family. We are happy we had the chance to meet such a sweet and elegant lady as your Ellie. May your love and devotion to Ellie now bring you peace and comfort.

By Karen Keenan on 02 11, 2017


Condolences left by other guests:

may your memories comfort you. a beautiful family, so happy I got to know you xo

By kelly maloy on 02 10, 2017


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